I have trouble accepting compliments and believing things like when I hear things like: “You are pretty/attractive/handsome; You are so talented; You are brilliant and intelligent; You look very nice today; You did a great job; etc…
How come I’m uncomfortable whenever I’m given compliments? It actually feels sorta weird and awkward, and I often try to avoid receiving compliments or I will minimize or deflect them. Answer: It’s because you honestly do NOT believe (beliefs) what you are being told.
Low self-esteem (a poor or low assessment of how you view yourself) comes from the outside (other people saying negative things about you) and from the inside (you thinking and saying negative things to yourself and believing such things about yourself). Negative self-talk, which is negative talk about yourself, is filled with messages and conversations that (unknowingly) come from a place deep inside your subconscious mind; and, this is the storage place that holds all your core beliefs.
On the other hand, the opposite of low self-esteem, confidence also comes from the outside (other people consistently saying positive things about you) and from the inside (you thinking or saying positive things to yourself and believing such things about yourself). In essence, this is the exact same process of what happens to create low self-esteem, whereby positive thoughts and positive self-talk come from a place deep inside your subconscious mind; and, this is the storage place that holds all your core beliefs.
With that as a basic background, it may be easy to understand that negative self-talk and negative thoughts about yourself lead to a lack of self-confidence, low self-esteem.
However, what is not so easy to understand is, “How do I stop my negative self-talk, how do I get rid of those negative thoughts that continue to enter my mind and negative feelings I continue to experience?”
Well, there are many “techniques” out there. Maybe you’ve already tried standing in front of a mirror and repeating positive affirmations or writing down positive affirmations and posting them everywhere, and that hasn’t really worked. Or maybe you have tried to just “be positive” and have “positive thinking. And maybe, just perhaps, those things worked for a few days, but then you were right back to the negative self-talk, the negative thoughts about yourself, experiencing negative feelings and having a very low or poor self-image.
Consider this for a moment; all of your thought about yourself–both positive and negative—come from deep within your subconscious mind. And, as I shared previously, your conscious mind (which is reportedly 10% to 12% of how you operate) is not able to control and change your subconscious mind (which is reportedly 88% to 90% of how you operate). More often than not, it is simply not possible to use your conscious mind (with logic and reason) to change something (especially a heightened emotional experience) that has been deeply rooted in your subconscious mind (where your emotions and beliefs reside).
Yes, it is true. The key to addressing and creating long-lasting permanent changes to your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors is linked directly to accessing your subconscious mind. Using various techniques, you can gain access to your subconscious mind, where you have access to this valuable place that stores all of your hopes, hurts, and dreams. Together, we can modify or delete the negative beliefs you have about yourself and then create the positive, confident feelings that you desire!
The Mind Doctor® utilizes various techniques to access the subconscious mind, where all of your beliefs are stored. Through the use of various personalized techniques and approaches, The Mind Doctor® can change your personal thoughts and beliefs – deleting your past and shaping your future!
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