Is It Necessary to Heal My Mind?

Your adult drama (the painful and emotional things you experiencing today) are more often than not, a result of your unresolved childhood trauma (painful and emotional things you experienced growing up).

Everything Starts In The Mind… I Dare You To Change Your Mind!

Shame, Guilt, Depression, Sadness, Low Self Esteem & Self Worth, PTSD, Panic Attacks, Anxiety, Loss & Grief, Confusion, Emptiness, Hopelessness, Trust and Attachment Issues, Uncontrollable Anger, Feeling Stuck, Unmotivated, Feelings of Failure, etc.

What you are experiencing today (any of the above and more) is more often than not a result of what you experienced in the past, things you experienced that have not been emotionally resolved, and things that will not go away by simply talking about them and being encouraged!

The Mind Doctor® uses techniques to heal you from past experiences, experiences that you may or may not even consider traumatic, yet experiences that are negatively impacting your life today.  Amazingly, the techniques used can even heal you from your past experiences when you don’t even remember the specifics of the experience!

Yes, it is more than possible that you can use your mind to change your perception of what has happened to you, to delete a negative memory, and to create a new, positive memory!  Together, we can change the past so you can enjoy the present, while shaping the future you see for yourself!

 Through the techniques used by The Mind Doctor®, you can change what you believe about your circumstances or past experiences.  And, as you may have already experienced, simply using positive self-talk or affirmations to change your thoughts, feelings, or behaviors doesn’t bring about long-term change. Yes, you may initially feel encouraged or motivated; however, it is just like the millions of people who eagerly start a New Year Resolution and then, after the motivation and encouragement begin to go away, they later fall back into their old behaviors and patterns – the way they have become programmed.  The negative thoughts and beliefs, the unwanted behaviors, all of these things (the way you have become subconsciously programmed) are stored in your subconscious mind – the part of your mind you are unaware of right now.  You are consciously reading this, but you are not consciously telling yourself to breathe or blink.. you are not consciously telling your body to pump blood to your heart.. those things are happening, but they are happening “subconsciously” – that is, you are unaware that something (your subconscious mind) is directing everything to happen.  In other words, many of the things that you do happen on “auto-pilot.”

Ultimately, it is necessary to access your subconscious mind (where everything is programmed) and, in essence, make adjustments to the old, harmful programs that are running in the background (more often running unknowingly in the background) so that new, positive things can now occur.

The days of talk, talk, and more talk therapy are over!  Who would want to see a psychotherapist, a “life coach”, or some “relationship expert” for months and years, spending thousands of dollars, and still not have their issues resolved? The truth is, resolving and healing your past negative experiences (trauma) through hypnotherapy is, without a doubt, much quicker, less expensive, and less painful than psychotherapy or counseling.

Anxiety

Ever had thoughts or concerns about something that has NOT happened.. thoughts or concerns about something that you think could possibly happen (whether actual or imagined), and these thoughts and concerns are driving you crazy? Can’t sleep? Can’t focus? It’s driving you mad..

Anxiety and depression both live on negative thinking and negative self-talk.  The more you think negative thoughts or repeat and talk about your worries, the more negative you feel and the more anxious you feel. You are worrying about something that you believe could happen.. something that has not happened, but something that you have come to believe might just happen.

The truth is, feeling anxious and worried most of the time is an emotional drain on your mind and body and can completely steal the happiness from your life.  What does your anxiety look like?  It could be one or more of these:  having a rapid heartbeat, a queasy or uneasy feeling in your body or stomach, maybe some chest discomfort, possibly even a shortness of breath with feelings of panic and an urgency to get away or leave wherever you are at the time. Also, if you continue to think about the issue and you continue to talk about the issue, anxiety can easily begin to grow in an intensity and frequency that impacts every aspect of your life (work, social, family, sleep).  Anxiety, even when starting out small, can eventually lead to other unreasonable fears, such as not wanting to leave the home or be in social situations.

Yes indeed, anxiety can very easily begin when you allow negative thoughts and negative self-talk.  When you repeat those negative thoughts over time, not just to others but to yourself, it becomes a belief, and beliefs are part of the foundation (subconscious mind) of how you operate.  Further, when your emotions are attached to those recurring thoughts, the beliefs just become even more deeply rooted.  And, ironically, the majority of your thoughts, when logically analyzed, are most often distorted thoughts, based on inaccurate perceptions.

Well, if you know your thoughts are distorted or not true, how come you are unable to just change your thoughts? Why can’t you just logically figure it out?

Yessssss, that’s the question!  Well, you can’t reason it out because your beliefs and emotions are stored in your subconscious mind, and your reasoning and rational thoughts occur in your conscious mind.  While it is true that your positive and negative thoughts and experiences are stored in your subconscious mind, while you are in your conscious state of mind, you (generally) aren’t able to access your very powerful subconscious mind where you have all of the resources to make the changes to your thoughts.  In essence, who you are (your beliefs) are a result of all of your life experiences and these experiences are stored in your subconscious mind; it is how you have been programmed.  In order to change most things (how you are programmed), the changes have to take place in the subconscious mind – delete a program, alter a program, create a new program, and then restart your mind (when you go to sleep, your mind will update your programming).

Ok, so if you personally can’t “consciously” make the changes, if you personally are unable to make the changes that will be long lasting (after the motivation and encouragement go away), then what is the answer?

The answer is: The Mind Doctor®.  The Mind Doctor® utilizes various techniques that will allow you access into your subconscious mind where your emotions, perceptions, and beliefs are stored and can be changed.

Depression

If you have ever experienced depression, you are not alone.  Millions of people are clinically diagnosed with various forms of depression, while still millions other people suffer from depression and just may not be clinically diagnosed.

Depression has been defined as, among many other ways, being in a state of negative thinking.  And, although “states” are defined as temporary behaviors or feelings dependent upon a person’s situation (vs. traits that are consistent and long-lasting), it can be a time when your mind views everything from a negative lens. What does your depression look like?  It could be one or more of these: Avoiding people; easily irritated; withdrawn; described as “moody” by friends and family; easily angered; restless; loss of appetite; eating too much; loss of hope; unexplained crying; excessive crying; lack of concentration; focused on / fixated on certain thoughts or events; and, among many other characteristics – possible thoughts of harming yourself or suicide.  For example, because of your experiences or situation, you can find it difficult to see anything that is positive and, as a result, experience feelings of hopelessness. And, if you are like the millions of people who suffer from depression, you may have even had this type of self-talk or even been given this type of talk from someone who cares about you:  I have a job, a home, a great family.. there are a lot of people worse off than me.. I don’t have any reason to complain.. Yet, despite this logical reasoning, why do I continue to feel this way?

You feel this way because logical reasoning and solutions do not resolve painful, emotional issues.

That’s where your subconscious mind can be the source of changing the negativity that is feeding on itself. By gaining access to your subconscious mind, you can retrieve the resources you already have inside of you to change your thinking and your perceptions to be the positive ones you desire.

Medication?

Yes, sometimes medication should at least be an option for you.  For many people, medication has given them the foundation they’ve needed to now move forward with psychotherapy or hypnotherapy.  Being stable on medication and consistently attending therapy has often resulted in significant changes in behavior and mood; further, many people have continued on with therapy without continuing on with medication (under physician supervision).

Fears and Phobias

Why am I so afraid to.. Why do I have a fear of..

Fears and Phobias live in the subconscious mind.  Therefore, when someone gives you “logical” reason or explanation of why you should not be afraid, it normally does not work!

Consider this: if it were that simple, if it were as simple as taking someone’s advice or listening to their “logical” explanation and then applying it, you would have surely done that by now, right?

Phobias (or a fear of something) start with you having an experience (a situation), along with one or more negative thought(s) about that experience, and then attached or associated with a negative emotion(s) that you had during that experience.  The “experience” you had could have been listening to another person talk about something that they went through, or it could have been you watching something on television or in a movie.  In other words, when you have an experience and you have negative thoughts, and when you have negative emotions attached to this experience, as well, you may develop an irrational belief.  And, as I’ve shared, beliefs reside in your subconscious mind – a place that does not respond to “logic” and “explanations.”

Therefore, because hypnotherapy and other techniques deal with the subconscious mind, they are the best approaches to address fears and phobias.  I address these things in the subconscious mind, where they exist.  Further, I utilize various other hypnosis techniques to delete and/or re-program your negative thoughts, which ultimately changes your belief(s).

Low Self-Esteem

I have trouble accepting compliments and believing things like when I’m told, “You are pretty/attractive/handsome..”  “You are really talented..” You are very smart / intelligent.” “You look nice today..” “You did a great job on..”

How come I’m uncomfortable whenever I’m given compliments?  It’s because you truly do NOT believe (beliefs) what you are being told.

Low self-esteem (a poor or low assessment of how you view yourself) comes from the outside (other people saying negative things about you) and from the inside (you thinking and/or saying negative things to yourself about yourself).   Negative self-talk, which is negative talk about yourself, is filled with messages and conversations that (unknowingly) come from a place deep inside your subconscious mind; and, this is the storage place that holds all your core beliefs.

On the other hand, opposite of low self-esteem, confidence also comes from the outside (other people consistently saying positive things about you) and from the inside (you thinking and/or saying positive things to yourself about yourself).  In essence, very similar to the process of what happens to create low self-esteem, positive thoughts and positive self-talk come from a place deep inside your subconscious mind; and, this is the storage place that holds all your core beliefs.

With that as a basic background, it may be easy to understand that negative self-talk and negative thoughts about yourself lead to lack of self-confidence, low self-esteem.

However, what is not so easy to understand is, “How do I stop my negative self-talk, how do I get rid of those negative thoughts that continue to enter my mind?”

Well, there are many “techniques” out there..

Maybe you’ve already tried standing in front of a mirror and repeating positive affirmations or writing down positive affirmations and posting them everywhere.. and that hasn’t worked..

..Or maybe you have tried to just “be positive” and have “positive thinking.” ..and maybe, just perhaps, those things actually worked for a few days, but then you were right back to the negative self-talk, the negative thoughts about yourself, and having a very low or poor self-image.

Consider this: All of your self-thoughts–both positive and negative–come from within your subconscious mind.  And, as I shared previously, your conscious mind (which is reportedly 10% to 12% of how you operate) is not able to control and change your subconscious mind (which is reportedly 88% to 90% of how you operate).  It is not possible to use your conscious mind (with logic and reason) change something in your subconscious mind (where your emotions and beliefs reside).

Yes, IT IS TRUE!  They key to addressing and creating long-lasting permanent changes to your thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors is linked directly to accessing your subconscious mind.

Using various techniques, you are able to gain access to your subconscious mind; while you have access to this valuable place that stores all of your hopes, hurts, and dreams.. together, we can delete the negative beliefs you have about yourself and then create the positive, confident feelings that you desire!

The Mind Doctor® utilizes various techniques to access the subconscious mind, where your beliefs are stored.  Through the use of personalized techniques and approaches, The Mind Doctor® is able to change your personal thoughts and beliefs – deleting your past and shaping your future!

The Impact of Your Childhood On Your Mind

“My childhood wasn’t that bad..” I guess I survived..” or “Growing up was hell for me..”

Whether you describe your childhood as, “great”, “ok”, or “very bad”, everything you experienced growing up is stored inside of you and has shaped who you are today.

The impact of childhood experiences (negative, undesirable, bad, etc.)  can be any event whether large or small.  Research indicates that your negative, unresolved childhood experiences are at the origin of most of your issues.  Indeed, unresolved childhood trauma often manifests as adult drama.  For example, imagine your own childhood experiences for a moment.. and there were most likely experiences that caused you, at some point, to feel anxious, afraid, unlovable, insecure, helpless, confused, depressed, overwhelmed, angry, rejected, alone, etc.

For example, the following are very common childhood experiences that result in trauma:

  • Being belittled and/or ridiculed
  • Teased, bullied (by older kids, peers, and/or siblings)
  • Made to feel unsafe, such as the threat of abandonment or being kicked out of the home
  • Parent(s) failing to express affection and love (physical and verbal)
  • Parents that divorce
  • Parents that argue and fight
  • Domestic violence
  • Unstable home, disruptive home
  • Witnessing violence in the home, community, television
  • Being part of a new blended family
  • Any highly stressful event because it critically affects a young developing mind

Negative childhood experiences like the those identified are like a computer virus in the mind. For example, on our computer, we often are unaware of the virus that’s hidden somewhere on our hard drive; yet it slows down the performance of our computer and often results in everything coming to an unexpected crash!  Similarly, we are also often unaware of a virus in our mind; though, the virus also slows down our performance as it silently influences our thoughts, feelings, and choices.

The computer with a virus often still functions, just not the way it was originally designed.  Similarly, we are also still functioning, just not the way we were originally designed.  And, on a computer, many times there are several viruses that are impacting the overall performance of the hard drive.  Indeed, there are often many childhood experiences that have impacted the overall performance of our mind!

The great news is.. once we take our computer to someone who specializes in computers (the “tech expert”) and allow the “expert” to examine it, the “expert” is able to identify the “issues”, delete the “issues”, and then reprogram and reboot the computer so it can be restored to operate how it was originally designed!

Very similarly, the great news is once you allow someone (me) who specializes in the mind (The Mind Doctor®) to “examine” what is happening because of what has happened, I will be able to identify the “issues” and determine a course of action so that you will be restored to live and function how you were originally designed!

The Impact of Trauma On Your Mind

Traumatic symptoms (what you experience and what we see on the outside) are not caused by the triggering event itself.  On the contrary, traumatic symptoms “…are a result of the frozen residue of energy that has not been resolved and discharged in the nervous system). (Peter Levine)

What is trauma?  The mind and body consider trauma as any experience that is overwhelming to a person’s ability to cope with that experience.  Further, trauma appears when a person experiences an event where he or she feels helpless and does not have the ability to defend himself / herself by fighting, fleeing, or freezing.  What is experienced at that time, the energy that a person experienced when unable to defend himself / herself, is referred to as “survival energy” – energy that became stuck at that moment in the nervous system.  If that “survival energy” is not released from the nervous system it will most likely show in the person as emotional or behavioral issues such as depression, anger, addictions, anxiety, or other psychosomatic and physical illnesses.

How Emotions Get Stuck In Your Body

As I watched my father beat my mother, I she screamed for help… …I remember also screaming for my father to stop hurting her…

So, what happens when you experience a negative event at a heightened emotional time? When you have a negative emotional experience (trauma), you don’t have the ability to release the energy that is now linked to the stressful, negative experience.  Thus, the negative emotional energy of the experience (trauma) becomes stuck or programmed in your body.

For example, if you experience or know of someone who has experienced something from the list below, then you can also believe these “issues” came from somewhere / have a source.   Take a look at the list of “issues” and then take a look at where they may have come from / the source.

PLEASE NOTE:  What is experienced on the left may come from any of the sources on the right – they do not line up.  For example, feelings of Anxiety / Panic Attacks and Phobias do NOT necessarily come from Physical Abuse -those feelings may have originated from any of the sources listed.

Feelings You Experience

  • Anxiety / Panic Attacks and Phobias
  • Feeling Disconnected and Detached
  • Feeling Isolated and Alone
  • Depression
  • Fears
  • Helplessness and Hopelessness
  • Excessive Worry (Rumination)
  • Hyper-Vigilant
  • Hyperactive and Unable to Focus
  • Mood Swings
  • Anger Outbursts
  • Weight Gain
  • Extreme Sensitivity to Light or Sound
  • Insomnia and Nightmares
  • Loss of Memory
  • Physical Pain
  • Chronic Fatigue
  • Loss of Vitality
  • Detachment and Dissociation
  • Inability to Deal with Stress
  • Chronic Physical Illness

Where It May Have Originated / Possible Sources

  • Physical Abuse
  • Verbal Abuse
  • Bullying
  • Neglect / Abandonment
  • Trauma During Birth
  • Criticism, Judgment, and Shaming
  • Anger and Violence (directly or witness)
  • Rape, Incest, Sexual Molestation
  • Vehicle Crash
  • Any Type of Surgery
  • Divorce
  • Death of a loved one
  • Combat or War
  • Suicide of Someone You Love
  • Homeless
  • Illness
  • Torture
  • Any Threat To Your Life
  • Physically Attacked

Healing Childhood Trauma

As a child, whatever the age, you were extremely sensitive and vulnerable to what you experienced. In other words, it’s not only the things that happened directly to you, but it’s also the things you saw or heard (vicariously) that has significantly impacted you. Further, when you experienced something (directly or indirectly), due to the negative experience (especially at a heightened emotional time), your mind may have distorted what happened and then stored the information incorrectly.

Consider this for a moment: How is it that time after time, even though you consciously and logically know it will end in a bad way or that it’s not good for you, you make choices that result in the same negative ending? Well, first.. there is a presupposition that you are actually making a “choice” when you said what you said, did what you did.. Yet, consider this as well: If you have been trained in boxing for many years and have been programmed to “bob and weave” when someone throws a punch.. when someone throws a punch, are you choosing to “bob and weave” or are you simply reacting instinctively, without any thought, because that’s the way you have been trained (programmed) for many years?

After years of training to “bob and weave” when someone throws a punch, could you actually stand there and not duck when someone throws a punch? Initially, it would be very, very difficult to just stand there and not “instinctively” move out of the way; and you could not do it consistently without being “reprogrammed” – in essence, undoing what you have learned to do without thinking.

In the perfect world, children would not be teased, bullied, witness parents fighting, someone getting killed, etc. And, if they did experience traumatic events, they would be able to process the experience without any issues and simply move on with their lives.

However, children very often do not have the kind of emotional and cognitive skills required to process traumatic experiences. In other words, the child’s still-developing mind and personality may be unable to process the experience, resulting in unresolved trauma. That “experience”, those “experiences”, are never resolved and, ultimately, the child grows into an adult – and those “experiences” are still there, somewhere deep inside the subconscious mind, and more than likely unknowingly impacting the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors of the adult.

As an adult, the unresolved childhood experiences (trauma) could now look like: difficulty with interpersonal relationships; anxiety; low self-esteem; lack of confidence; anger and bitterness; sadness; loneliness; emptiness; impulsive and dangerous behaviors; and the list goes on and on..

Do I Have To Relive That Experience(s)?

Healing childhood trauma with hypnotherapy and other techniques does not mean that you will have to relive your painful childhood experience again.

The Mind Doctor® will create a safe environment that will allow you to focus on identifying, resolving, and healing childhood experience(s) that have been negatively impacting your life.

The great news is once you allow someone (me) who specializes in the mind (The Mind Doctor®) to “examine” what is now happening as an adult because of what has happened to you as a child, I will be able to identify the “issues” and determine a course of action so that you will be restored to live and function how you were originally designed!

The Inner Child In You

The inner child in you is a collection and assortment of memories within your personality; it is a representation of difficult and challenging experiences or sadness that you experienced growing up as a child. While you may not have heard about or know very little about “the inner child” and how “the inner child” is represented, it is important to understand that healing the inner child is key to functioning in a healthy manner as an adult. Adult drama is simply unresolved childhood trauma! In fact, the process of healing the inner child is widely used in psychotherapy / hypnotherapy to help those battling with addiction, suffering with PTSD, or childhood trauma.

Taking time to heal your “inner child” can help with several issues. Whatever your age, it doesn’t even matter! There have been and there are going to be times when you think that life is too much, and you feel so overwhelmed; this “overwhelmed” feeling didn’t just pop up, it came from somewhere. The overwhelmed feelings you experienced are a result of something that you previously experienced and comes from your inner child. Even though you are now an adult and you may even be doing “pretty good” in life, you still have or will experience fears, worries, feelings of sadness, shame, guilt, loneliness, etc. Yes, these are the feelings (and others) that will inexplicably stop you from reaching your true potential, fulfilling your destiny.. these are the types of feelings that will unknowingly impact you in a way that will have you shy away from life’s challenges and/or avoid pursuing the beautiful possibilities ahead!

The Healing For Your Pain Is In Your Pain

Were you aware that everything you do is being recorded? That’s right. Whatever you do, whatever you see, smell, taste, hear, feel and experience is being recorded. In essence, you are a human video recorder, storing everything, everywhere you go, all of your experiences.. the experiences you are aware of, and even the experiences you are not aware of.. your body even records a physical memory of all of your experiences.

Research indicates that you have many memories stored in your brain that you can recall at any time. You are able to recall names and faces, able to recall where an event took place and what it sounded like and smelled like at that event. However, research also indicates that over time, your memories fade or become distorted as time passes and as you get older. Yet, consider this: even when your memory begins to fade in your mind, your memory still often remains in your body in the form of physical sensations and behavior patterns.

Events and Experiences Leave Physiological Imprints In Our Bodies

If you had known these things or had been taught these things, you would be able to soothe your stress response right after it was triggered. However, as you know, you were not taught these things; as a result (and without a clue), you are living each day with the physical imprints of your past experiences (good and bad) stored in your body. Further, because you have been clueless that your body has these physical imprints (memories), you most likely do not have any idea of how to release and heal you’re the physical memories stored in your body!

For example, consider this: Ever felt your body tense up when you have been called upon to answer a question in front of people? Ever felt your body tense up when you have had to borrow money or ask for help? Or, perhaps you stumbled or tripped and then saw people looking at you; remember your face feeling flush or hot? What you felt in those experiences and so many more were the sensation(s) that your body remembered.

Your body is recalling that past experience when you were called upon to answer a question and you didn’t know what to say and you felt humiliated. Maybe it was when you felt ashamed or embarrassed when you had to ask someone for money, or had to ask them for help. Your mind may not be able to recall the details of the memory, but your body was able to respond in the way it remembered – with physical sensations (nausea, sweating, ringing in the ears, tenseness in the shoulders, headaches, etc.)

Every day, people live with anxiety, stress, and trauma. And, unfortunately, people often use food, alcohol, drugs, and other addictive behaviors (smoking, gambling, shopping, etc.) to calm themselves and ease the emotional discomfort.

There’s nothing wrong with using self-care (hobbies, exercise, leisure activities) to help soothe or ease the pain; however, those may only be short-term logical solutions for what we know to be long-term issues (emotional issues) that need a full healing!

The great news is once you allow someone (me) who specializes in the mind (The Mind Doctor®) to “examine” what is now happening as an adult because of what has happened to you as a child, I will be able to identify the “issues” and determine a course of action so that you will be restored to live and function how you were originally designed!